You hear about it. You read about it. You see it happening to people your Facebook friends know. Then it happens to you or someone you know, and you’re at a loss of words. Whether it was good news or bad, you’re in shock, because you can’t believe what you’ve just been told. There are a lot of things I wish I could go back and change if I re-did college, but more than anything, there are two important things I wish I could go back and tell myself.
1. Not everyday is promised
These past few months, I’ve learned that tomorrow isn’t guaranteed. The “next time” isn’t promised. These past few months, I found myself thinking things like, “had I known that was going to be the last time I saw them,” and that’s where the problem lies. I was taking people and their presence for granted. You never think it’ll happen to someone you know, so when it does, you feel some sort of regret. You start thinking about all the different things you wish you could have done differently. It’s time for that to stop. I’m guilty of taking people for granted. My friends and family are guilty of it. Anyone who says they aren’t are lying. Everyone does it.
Make the most of every interaction you have with someone. Let shit go–and this is more a message to me than to anyone else–and don’t hold grudges. Don’t dwell on the past or the “woulda, coulda, shoulda’s.” I’m tired of looking back and thinking, “had I known.” I don’t want anyone else to feel it, either. It sucks. It’s a shitty feeling.
Tell your friends and family you love them. Tell them how much they mean to you. Let them know they matter. Treat every encounter like it’s your last, because if something were to happen, will you be able to look back at it and feel satisfied with it? The second you think “the next time I’ll do it differently” is the second you’ve lost. The NEXT time isn’t promised, so do it right THIS time.
2. Your dreams are not impossible
Everyone who’s ever had a class with me or has ever held a conversation me knows I am a sports fanatic. My absolute dream job is to be a publicist for a high-profile athlete. But one of my bigger dreams and goals (if that makes sense) is to work in the sports industry. This summer, I became very close to achieving that. I made it to the final round of the selection process with an NBA team that shall remain nameless. Out of the THOUSANDS of people who applied for the public relations/marketing position, I was one of THREE finalists.
Well. All good things come to an end, and I didn’t get the job. And I cried for two days straight (yes, I’m pathetic, judge me). I was bitter about it for a while…and admittedly still kind of am. But what I learned from that intense selection process was that my lofty dreams were reachable. I may not have done it RIGHT NOW, but the fact that I made it that far with no professional job experience means that I was doing something right. Now I have to build on that, gain experience and go after the dream in a different route at a different time. No dream is too big, too lofty or impossible. If you set your mind to it, it will happen. Setbacks are only temporary and minor, because the comeback will be major.
I landed a very kick-ass job. One that’s full of prestige. Every time I say what I do, I feel proud of myself that my very first job–one that I landed three months after graduating with my bachelor’s degree–is with the University of Georgia as a PR Specialist. I cannot think of a better place or platform to get the experience I want and need. My dream of working in the public relations field came true. Now it’s up to me what I make of it.
After graduating, I didn’t realize (or think for that matter) that I’d still continue to learn. Yeah, I knew once I’m employed, I’d be learning things about the professional world and the “professional Mohsina.” But I didn’t think about the life lessons I’d be learning. Or how quickly I’d be learning them. Life is too short to dwell on things that don’t matter in the long run. Everything happens for a reason, and everything will work out the way it’s supposed to. So until all the cards fall into the right place, it’s time to start living life to the fullest with no regrets.